(This article merely states the futility of the subject under consideration. You call it absurd or confused... but it is what it is)
Let us get practical when it gets to emotions.
What do we expect from relationships?
Satisfaction :)
When do the equations between two satisfied individuals start changing?
It happens when they stand on two different platforms and (attempt to) communicate on different wavelengths.
That is all to it.
Growing independence has given rise to 'Spheres of Individuality' around each person.
It speaks of our choices, our expectations, our changing perceptions and fluidity of life on the whole.
We find a person who can gel well with this specific sphere... that is, both persons find their respective spheres to be gelling together. :P
And we start going out hoping (at that moment) to let it stay as it is forever.
Yet we don't hesitate to break it up whenever we feel the relationship has lost its spark.
Successful women look for successful men and vice versa.
Anything wrong in it?
I think not. :)
Relationship is a responsibility and so is self-evolution.
When one person grows (maybe mentally or professionally) and expects other to grow in the same manner... and the other fails him/her... problems start creeping in.
Emotions seem to muddle it all up but when we look at the whole thing from 'above', it is just a companionship between two 'individuals'. (Boy do I love that word!)
Call it 'Marriage' or call it 'Live-In'. It really makes no difference.
When the relationship is dying, no label can save it.
Recently a TOI article found its way in front of my eyes... it echoed the truth.
Young teenagers having multiple relationships before becoming adults.
Thus having heart-breaks and complex emotional problems at a tender age.
In the end, the whole attitude towards the act of 'being with someone' changes.
Heart-breaks become less painful, they become numb towards the feeling of 'belonging to someone' and tendency shown by the better half is labeled as 'possessiveness'.
What is this exactly?
- It can be termed as Independence and being Self-Sufficient when it comes to emotions and life.
- It can be termed as being Self-Centered and a refusal to adjust to make oneself compatible to someone with whom we share a mutual feeling of love.
- It encourages Individuality. Like Ayn Rand always portrays her leading lady sleeping with multiple men and loving them all in a different manner. What she means to say is- A Human Belongs To No One But Himself.
Or should the sense of belonging be as long as we love the person?
Then if love can change at will... any time... as and when the human changes in his/her life...
Is everything really this temporary?!
Sometimes we are not sure whether we love the current person in our life.
We make it easier for our confused mind as merely stating aloud that it is an indecision between two words - 'love' and 'infatuation'.
We tend to miss our Ex (again probably misunderstanding the affection) and then probably we regret messing it all up.
Whatever maybe the case... we should be aware of our maturity regarding the whole manner.
Infatuation and Love are two emotions which can be easily segregated from each other.
Understanding that is of utmost importance.
Choose anyone we want and stay happy.
Be sure of what we want.
Never move on from the place where we want to stay.
If we move on or at least attempt to- never take a U-Turn. :)
There is nothing like-
"We should move on even though there is love"
"I can't move on because that will mean hurting him/her"
Moving on after falling out of love can be as easy as unraveling some discolored string from a thorny branch.
We belong to no-one unless we commit.
But again- commitment dies with love.
Everything is this temporary.
:)
Say- we are married and living with the person we now love.
We travel, meet new people and can get attracted to someone with something we had accepted our current better half without.
What of the attraction we now feel?
Can be stated merely as an 'infatuation'?
Or shall we go ahead with it since he/she could just be the One we were looking for...?
Is it not right calling an engagement/marriage off because we believe we have found someone better?
So what if that may not be the case?
What if it is the case?
Is staying behind and get married to person we are engaged to or stay with the person you're already married to called 'Maturity with regards to relationships'?
In this age of practicality, can we really submit to emotions called 'love' without thinking of its consequences? Or should we always keep moving on with the flow?
Won't there always be a case of meeting someone more attractive than the one we are with at the moment?
Or the love we feel will surely refrain us from this temptation of going out with this new person?
What my abstract sentences (which seem to be swirling around even in my head) want to get down to is- *sigh of relief*
- What are the changing equations of love for the youth these days?
- How do we define the love which holds together the relationships made by choice?
- If we are this practical, will we ever be able to grab hold of the right Yin/Yang?
- Or are we really alone on this path and have to keep changing companions as we evolve while advancing step-by-step?
I'm out of a relationship by mutual choice.
Neither of us are sure whether we should get back together or not.
Both us are getting attracted to new people in our fluid lives.
And I have decided to make myself fiercely free with regards to emotional ties.
I'll swim with the flow... as stated earlier-
I'm comfortably numb about the entire thing and the break-up was almost painless.
Equations are changing... and so should we.
Weird though... and sad.
